BESIDE MYSELF--Starting Over

I found out a bit ago that X took my son out of state this weekend without even telling me. They are on their way back now, but since I have sole custody with him only being allowed reasonable visitation, shouldn't he have TOLD me he was taking the son out of state??? I had no way of knowing until daughter told me. Plus he hasnt returned him back yet and there is school tomorrow. I don't even have a damn phone number that I can check on him. I had to call my daughter to let him know I needed my son back NOW. I was SO tempted to send the police there. He has reasonable visitation but has made no arrangements. It is only through my effort or son's effort that he has any at all :/ later: He finally returned Son just before ten pm. After that, son still had to do his homework, take a shower, etc.

I had a good day. Feeling better after a bit of a cold. Went to county clerk office to get a copy of divorce paper then off to SSA to get my new SS card. THEN tried to get a new driver's license but they are bein difficult. Was having a great old time runnin around with my kids. Daughter thinks I am totally crazy coz I was acting silly (Happy actually). I said well, this is HAPPY MOM. You haven't seen her for awhile. Later, son opened up a bit more about his visit with his father: Turns out that X was doing to son what he always did to me carrying on at him, not letting him sleep until son got mad and upset then, X took him out to IHOP just like he used to do to me--feed me or f@#k me. and that is when son told his dad not to talk bad about me and X said he would keep it to himself. my poor baby is being harassed. AND before son was dropped off, X made sure to give him a message for me: He said I cannot drop him off for visitation just because I have plans and he has diver...

Mmm.okay, that didn't work. I called to speak to son last night. His father answered and was not going to allow me to!? He finally did for a few minutes before snatching the phone away and saying that he was gonna get rid of the house and leave town. blah blah. Anyway, my divorce almost turned NASTY. So, I went over there to sort it out. My mom REALLY didn't want to coz was afraid I would be physically hurt. I wasn't. He wasn't going to talk to me at first, was being pretty nasty. I finally walked in the bedroom and found the real source of the problem: the papers arrived in the mail. I called him in there telling him that I understood that it was upsetting---upset me too signing them. blah blah Bottom line is we slung "You did this, that" back and forth for a few until I finally stopped it and said okay okay lets just stop that. No point. You were right. It WAS wrong from the beginning. I loved you, wanted you but you didn't love me, didn't want to ma...