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NONfixable fixer-uppers

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New relationships in ones 40's are so difficult. Some things are deal breakers; others are tolerable. The big question is: will tolerable become intolerable at some point? I'm afraid that it may becoming too easy for me to say "that's fine; take your (habit, inclination, predilection- pick one) and move along." Since most of us are NONfixable fixer-uppers, it seems best to find someone who has the most compatible flaws--AGHH.

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I have myself in a bit of a pickle. Joe and I might get married. He's made a lot of changes, but the kinds of things he is working on take time and are difficult to change. When I'm with him, I think "We can do this!" When I'm not, I start worrying. I have trust issues. How do you trust someone completely? I usually take things at face value, but reserve judgement and observe. I'm not sure I'm ready to step away from the "man buffet" As long as I have a main course at home, I'm good. That's part of the question. Will there be a main course? What is love anyway? I really have no idea anymore. Caring? That comes easily for me. I can care deeply about many people--have and do. What is the difference between that and love? I'd like to be taken care of. I don't want to be the primary caregiver yet. He needs looking after. Why do I have to be the one to do that? I don't think that people are capable of "fixing&qu